Making Friends in Germany

I’ve started making friends in Germany as I’ve mentioned in previous posts and I’ve met some very nice people.  But I’m at the point now where I want to start deepening my relationship with some of those people that I’ve met and start getting to know people one on one, instead of only in a large group.

Although I am friendly, I am actually shy when it comes to extending the first invitation. In many ways making friends in Germany reminds me of job hunting.  However, rarely does a dream job just fall in your lap, usually you have to look for openings, which is time consuming, then once you find a potential job, apply to it, then see if the company also sees you as a potential fit, then meet to see if you actually are a fit for each other – similar to what happens when you are making friends.  So while making friends in Germany is a two way street, I’ve decided to be more proactive, since good friends, like good jobs rarely just fall in your lap.  It takes a lot of work to make good friends, just as it does to land a good job.

My Making Friends in Germany strategy is to ask one new person each week to do something.  This will be especially important for making German friends, since Germans can be a bit more reserved when they first meet you, but I would like both German and American friends.

I have a few people on my list that I plan on asking to do things in the upcoming weeks as part of my Making Friends in Germany strategy.  Fortunately, I haven’t had to do all the asking and have received some lovely invitations as well which are much appreciated.  Making friends in Germany does take time and patience and it makes me thankful for the good friends I already have in the US.  It also takes me out of my comfort zone, but I am still enjoying making friends in Germany and believe I am on my way to making some lifelong friends who will no doubt further enrich my life.

If you have any tips on making friends, please share them.